By 有這么一個女生，送了曖昧訊息然后送禮物給一個不再是單身的男生。
男生開始當心自己的女友會發飆，于是開始隱瞞。
訊息，全刪掉。
禮物，說阿姨送的。
電話里的名字，也換了。
紙始終保不住火。她太細心，發現了男生的不對勁。
男生坦誠了，也答應了不會再與那女生聯絡。
可是，男生一次又一次地撒謊。
女友發飆了，但他不再道歉。
任由她哭，她傷心，他也只是置之不理。
她忽然發現他不再是她認識的那一個他了。
不，不是因為那女生, 他是個絕對的好男人，
只是，他已忘了如何珍惜她。
這個他，不是那個真正愛著她的那個他了。
她累了，絕望了，連吵架的力氣都沒了。
她這才發現自己太高估自己了。
原來，那男生，是個遙不可及的夢。
XOXO
~G~
January 7, 2010多数的男生都是酱的啦。。。
节哀顺变吧~~~~
KY
January 7, 2010这个男生不值得咯，找新的！
mio
January 7, 2010对自己好一点~~
不要想那么多了~~
知道事实了就勇敢面对吧~~
没有人是没有了谁是会死的~~
不珍惜你的人没资格让你去为他伤心难过~~
要加油哦~~^^
JiaossSS Kong
January 7, 2010你不会放弃他的，因为你还很爱他。 不然你不会写那么多东西，可能你觉得他会看到，然后内疚。。。。
jane_gun
January 7, 2010Dear couz, hope everything will turn out alright in the end… Stay strong ya…
Ronald in facebook..
January 7, 2010But not every guy doing that…What I mean is the percentage quite low…still have some guys quite loyal in the world just you can’t meet with “him”…those who are lie to you mean they’re not your final one…So,cheer up my friend…Love you then 100% love you…If you’re force him not to loves you, he will non-stopping to loves you…But for those who are not sincere although you’re holding a gun to force him to loves you, he also will not do what you’re expecting…depend to the fate….HE IS NOT YOURS…leave it and strength your mind and there are so many people, friends, your younger sister and brother even your parents supporting you…they’re your real wealth..and always loyal to you..cherlin…
Jerwin
January 7, 2010你还年轻，跌倒还可以爬起来。。还会有更好的等着你。。加油！
还有还有。。你那么漂亮又有智慧，他不珍惜是他的损失。。
passerby
January 7, 2010Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
passer by
January 7, 2010time to move on. wat is done cannot be undone. u can give him a chance provided u can forgive wat he has done. if not even there’s another chance,then d rship wont last. tis is my thought. all d best to u =)
bao
January 7, 2010say so many comforting words also no use. all also depend on yourself. how you want to treat yourself. how you want to live your life.
take some time off. cool down first. then only think again.
this is the best that I can tell you. because I just broke up 2 weeks ago. at first I can feel I cannot live without him, cry all your want. sooner or later, you will stop crying, your sense will come back.
just take some time off, when u have cooled down, you still cannot forgive him, then it is really over. the feeling will go away, sooner or later. that’s why people always say time heals.
people always tell me to move on all these crap, but are you ready to move on? so many things you cherish. so many things you can’t let go. the fear? no willing to let go?
you know you can do better than that. you know you can find something better than this. so screw him if he don’t appreciate you. there are so many people out there waiting for you to choose.
you know that right? so, it’s your call. Be happy always :)
Fei
January 8, 2010基本上男人对女人有三不政策：不抗拒、不主动、不负责任
不抗拒–不抗拒送上门的女人
不主动–不主动把事情讲清楚
不负责任–被发现后甚至会说是那个女人采取主动地
Eng Hau
January 8, 2010it’s true time heals. but on the other hand, there is still a scar.
u can always consider a time out instead of a break up just to calm things down can think carefully.
whatever decision u have made now will definitely have a change in your future.
therefore think carefully before u decide.
god bless you
Jane
January 8, 2010人是犯贱的，尤其是好的在身边不懂得珍惜的人。
这里那么多意见你也是听不进去的吧。
回到他身边只会让他再伤害你，或许有一天他会知道你的好。
Evonne Teo
January 8, 2010虽然，我们面对面只讲过几句话，我也不大认识你可是两天前我也经历过男友对我撒谎。
这不是一件容易接受的事，因为你也会开始怀疑以前他所说的一切是否都是谎言，你对他的信任也开始动摇了。
你还是很爱他对吧？要不然你也不会写你的心情在这，也不会那么的想念他。
一个人的转变是很容易的，可是要他变回以前的他…这就需要更多的时间和努力。相信我。现在的他肯定在内疚了，如果他还很爱你一定会回来你身边。
而那个会来的他，肯定是你所認識的那一個他。到了那时候，如果你还是深爱着他，就给他一个补偿的机会咯。我这是我个人的意见，可是给不给他一个改过自新的机会是在你手上。你自己做决定吧。
=)
Don’t be sad anymore. Life still go on. Look at the bright side =)
Be strong.
XOXO,
Evonne Teo <3
Justsweat
January 8, 2010Agreed with bao..
Take some time off first, then think properly..
Occasional mishaps do strengthen a relationship,
Did he do something that crosses the line that you cannot accept?
Just think if you could forgive his actions.
Guys flirt… girls flirt too, and you’re both young, it’s only normal to have second thoughts at times but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you anymore.
cherly
January 8, 2010*hugs*
miss ?
January 8, 2010you’re a good girl. this kind of boyfriend just don worth for you to cry anymore. you’d cry enough & you’ve gave him tons of chances dont you?you’ve done all you can. even if you give up now,noone will say that youre a bitch. afterall, its not your fault. he is the one who dont appreciate you. you tried your best to make him be with you & what he done?he betrays you all over again. if a guy who hide something from the girlfriend. it always means that there’s something extraordinary that happens. so,screw him. try talking to your beloved girlfriends like adelechow, or your family members. they are the one who always have your back :) stay strong tzia, im looking forward to see youre happy back. with loves.
Tracy
January 8, 2010我了解你的心情。
因为，我也曾处于这样的状况…
Tzia,加油 :)
Freda
January 8, 2010cool down and take your time and think , did he still worth for your love, your time and your tears ? do not make decision during your emo time, because emo is evil ! so think twice or thrice or even more before you make your decision . because i know that your boyfriend still loves you very very much !! cheers tzia, i know you can do it ! =)
Zues
January 8, 2010Cheer up girl, you deserve better.
tziaaa
January 8, 2010～g~ – 我相信會有特別的那個。
ky – 是值得的，我希望我是對的。
mio – 我沒了他真的不行。：（
jiaossss – 哈哈，他不會讀華語。
Jane – i hope everything will be fine! :)
Ronald – yes, i really know what my real wealth is! thanks for your concern! :)
jerwin – 才不是，他那么好，怎么會有損失。
passerby – & thansk god he did call me every night before he sleep. :)
passerby – i can forgive, i just want him to change. :(
bao – i am not ready, i am not, really! hmmm, no la, where got many choice. :(
fei – 哇，有道理！真的！！！！
enghau – i know, and i really wish there is a change. please. :(
jane – 對，人是犯賤的，你我都是。只是有些人會比較犯賤啦！
evonneteo – 啊！你真的了解我！我想，你也該知道我會怎決定了吧？ 嘻嘻。
justsweat – he did crossed the line. and i hope he learned this time. :)
cherly – hugs!!
miss – no. its not about will people call me a bitch. is the feelings of me for him. i love me, much more than i expected. and I know, he deserve me doing so. he’s turning back, he is!
tracy – we both jia you ba!!!
freda – i know, he still loves me. i really know. even though he’s at fault this time, as long as he make effort, he deserve me doing everything!!
zues- haha, no, i don;t. :(
Fei
January 9, 2010系爱情之中，女人最伟大！
男人嘅牺牲，就为咗追求美丽；而女人嘅牺牲，就只系得到一个麻甩佬！而最伟大嘅系佢哋根本唔觉得系牺牲。
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January 9, 2010haha i know u wil make the right choice… as long as he change… it is ok o… must love each other the same k… after marriage tis type of thing wil happen sometime too…mistake wil happen too… tak kan u say want divorce rite…. after he change, everyting must back to normal … forgive completely… forget completely .. love bravely
miss ?
January 9, 2010tzia, if thats your decision, i’ll always support you ;D & hope he really can change =)
tziaaa
January 9, 2010fei – 男人是否也會有“佢哋根本唔觉得系牺牲”的一天？ HMMMM.
… – i will, i promise. :)
miss? – thanks!! ^^ just let’s hope so kay?
jacster
January 10, 2010Don’t find a bf who’s good at saying sorry… Find a new one who never need to say sorry..
miss ?
January 11, 2010jacster, there’s noone who’s perfect and never say sorry.
tziaaa
January 11, 2010MISS? – i have to agree with you!!!
jacster – i wouldn’t mind him saying sorry, but i want a sincere one which he will really change whatever is it after saying it,
jacster
January 11, 2010hehe… hopefully…
best of wishes here… and hopefully see more updates from you… your blog seems a little bit quiet dy..
Ryan C00L
January 11, 2010Since you have so many friends that support you, then you need put more effort for your future. Every level of your age will know different level of partner. Maybe he is just one of your bypass person so that you could learn from the past and make your future better. Nothing is easy come easy go. Appreciate that you have the memory with him, enjoy what you have now, and make your life better soon. All the best.
mitaki
January 12, 2010After a man change his heart, no matter how hard you try to make the man stay beside you it turn out useless. This is because you were only get a empty shell without his heart(his love towards you), after some time has passed and somehow you will get bored and finally let him go.
sometime let go of something is better than grabbing tight.
Life is complicated.. wish you manage to get a better man and better life.
A friend;
January 12, 2010I’m pretty sure you don’t know me, but something struck me hard when I read this post, and I thought I should leave a comment to let you know that you’re (somewhat) not alone.
Almost 2 years back I started my uni life. I met an awesome guy who is perfect in every way, and within 4 short days, we fell in love. We started a relationship. We got together.
Before that I knew he HAD a girlfriend. They were together for 6 long years. Why they broke up, I didn’t know. All he told me was that there were a lot of problems in between, and the girl didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I thought, since they’re not together anymore, it shouldn’t be a problem, right?
Wrong.
I posted up pictures of us on Friendster. Within 3 day she messaged me and asked me what was my relationship wit him. She told me they were still together, and hope I’d understand what it’s like for them to be far apart from each other. She turned some of my classmates into spies; asked them to check on my bf, to see if he’s got a gf in uni.
We argued about this. Again and again and again. He told me he didn’t know how to tell her. “I thought you guys broke up?” And he said yeah, they did, but apparently she didn’t mean it, so they’re together. But he told me he didn’t tell her he loves her, didn’t miss her, didn’t want to be with her. There were a few times when I was on the verge of giving up, and he held on to me so tightly. He didn’t let me go. He said he just wanted to be with me.
He lied.
I found messages in his phone, messages where he told her he loved her (and then he’d lie to me and tell me he said nothing like that.), that he wants to be with her.
I was so mad, so disappointed, so annoyed.
But somehow, towards the end, I held on.
Last Christmas I came back to KL to celebrate it with my family. He went down to JB to celebrate with his.
On the 27th I went down to our uni (he went back there after christmas to prepare for his exams) to surprise him and to help him with his last minute brushing up before his paper, only to find out that that girl went down to jb to find him, they celebrated christmas with his family, and he lied to me, told me his mum’s phone had some problems so he’d be giving her his phone for a day. I yelled at him, I cried like shit, I almost left and went back to KL that night.
And yet I stayed.
All my friends think I’m stupid. I know that if I’m my own friend, I’d call myself stupid too. Why give him so many chances? Why open up doors to get yourself hurt, again and again?
Some call this stupidity.
Love. I call this love.
Love turned me into an idiot in so many ways, but, just like you, I think he is worth it. I don’t want to let go, because I love him. I trust him to change. I believe in chances. And I’m glad to know that you believe in it, too. Jia you, Tzia, I hope things work out alright for you.
And remember, even if shit happens, at least you know you truly loved.
If he chooses to leave you in the end, he doesn’t know how to appreciate the best things in life.
Right now, just try.
Today’s that girl’s birthday. He’s going out with her and their friends.
And here I am, in KL, typing this long ass comment (i don’t even know if it’ll make any sense to you), asking another girl to hold on to something great, because I believe in miracles.
Love is a miracle.
tziaaa
January 13, 2010jacster – i know, i will update more often. :)
ryan – i wish he will be my only one from now onwards, really. :) thanks!!
mitaki- life might be complicated, but there’s still miracle. like what “a friend” said, i believe in miracle! :) thanks, anyway!! :)
a friend – i actually know how say you will feel when you are typing this. just think, whether it is still worth it. for mine, i know it is. be tough, and make a right decision. ahhh, i hope i can talk to you. but, not here! :(
Hui ling
January 13, 2010pretty, guys will definitely change, don’t worry…but you gona be cruel to let him fall down himself and take time to wait it patiently…one day he will know who is the best for him if you sacrificed for him more than sacrificed for yourself…..i am sure that time he will come back and beg you by knee down in front of you…so be tough!!! let them fall down and feel the pain themselves
=) all the best!
A friend;
January 13, 2010Hahaha. It’s alright. If you really need someone to talk to just mail me. I’ll be here. =) Don’t fret, things will be just fine darl.
tziaaa
January 14, 2010huiling – i really get what you mean!!! :) *wink*
a friend – sure sure. :) you take care yea!
Kristin
January 21, 2010I know this comment came abit late and not sure if you will be reading this. I happen to be suffering from the same experience as you.
My bf hide the truth from me but in the end he still let me find out what he did. I was upset and depressed. I cried for many nights. I love him too much so I decided to give him a chance.
This things has already passed 2 months. Slowly, now we are getting better. He has slowly become the same old him and treats me better. The girl still pestering my bf but he already totally ignoring her.
I hope you and your bf will get better too =) Good luck and cheers!
tziaaa
January 21, 2010Kristin – it’s never too late! thanks girl!
& yea, we are getting along better already. thanks, a lot. :)